hi i totally understand. my son is 4 and we have been in the health care system for 2 years getting the same kinds of messages from all kinds of doctors. iv'e decided to go with my heart and have his therapists deal with him as dyspraxic even though it's not diagnosed. help is out there use the internet and print up all the info you can find to present to your doctors and be strong. i will not let anyone put the label of autism on my son and neither should you.