Hi My husband of 21 years of marriage was bi-polar. I know exactly how you feel. I have been there and done that and I know how difficult of a life it is. It sounds as if your doctor needs to adjust a medication or two. When you find the right combo for your husband your life will get a little better. It takes time to get adjusted on other meds. If you need to talk please e-mail me anytime. I would love to keep in touch.