Jean
First of all, your son is 36. If he hasn't learned his lesson by now then he probably won't. His biggest problem is that he needs to find God so that he will have a purpose for living. He needs to study God's word, the Bible and get some insight for wisdom. Then both you and your son need to spend much time in prayer, maybe go to church, find a place where people will try to help him. He is definitely lacking spiritual guidance. That is the best help that anyone could ever give hm. Help him to grow up first!