I am a 44 year old female whose mother went through menopause at the age of 36, my grandmother was in her early 30s and both older sisters have already gone through and finished menopause. I have been having extreme hot flashes, extreme memory loss, mood swings that go from one extreme to the other almost on a daily basis, but my periods have continued to be pretty much regular with an occasional quirck, my doc did a hormone test and says I am not going through menopause. I have seen a psychiatrist who has had me on Effexor for over a year now for these symptoms, I have been told it is depression. Although the medicine has helped with the mood swings, it has done nothing for other symptoms. Although my problem is somewhat different than yours, I can certainly empathize with your frustration and fear. Sometimes, I think I must be crazy and other times I just feel so much aggrivation that I have been told I will just have to live with this. I wonder how accurate these hormone tests really are. Because if I still have menopause to face and already have these problems, I am not sure I will be able to survive menopause. My doc says I am too young to be going through menopause and disregards the fact of my family history. So, I can only say hang in there, and I feel for you and hope you get the help you deserve and the answers you deserve.