Dee
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My daughter was diagnosed by a therapist back when she was about 14 after she started experiencing severe anxiety, depression and blackouts, she also began self injury episodes. I was unable or unwilling at the time to understand the future implications of this disorder, after all, she was involved in sports, seemed to have frienships that were good and she was taking medication for A.D.D.to help with her consentration at school. I thought I had all of the bases covered. Soon after 10th grade she became involved in an intense relationship with an athlete her age. As the next two years evolved, I began to see signs of intense control on her part and manipulation tactics, as well as sex, to keep the relationship going. Her extreme insecurities eventually made the relationship impossible. I then noticed the destructive behaviors begin to surface again. Poor choices, self- injury, reckless driving. It was all we could do to get through high school much less graduation, but somehow we made it. I will tell other parents out there that this disorder continues to be a part of your childs life, the disorganization, lost jobs, friends that come and go, but there is also the admiration that I have for my daughter who is now 18, living with room mates, and has just started community college this fall. My husband and I are amazed and proud of her ability to cope and fight through this disorder that takes so much effort to overcome. She still has episodes of self injury, we worry about completing her goals she has set, but we are more focused on the good days and feelings of being a person who can experience peace within. We will always stick by her. No matter what angry voice screams back we will always answer with love and understanding because we know that no one is perfect. Parents, listen to your children, follow through with professionals, take the time to see BPD through. Our journey is not over but we will embrace it and ride through together.