Pat, Valerian is not classified as a drug but an herb that relieves nervous tension and a calmative. Also reduces blood pressure. It should not be taken with drugs that induce sleep and not to be taken over 2-3 weeks in succession. My suggestion would be to keep some at hand and take only when under great stress and need a calmative. Kava Kava seems to also be of benefit. Please try my suggestion to find time to spend time outdoors with people around, it will take your mind off whatever is worrying or scaring you and perhaps go out with your women friends and socialize more. You'd be surprised what laughter will do for you. A well known author, Norman Cousins said he cured his disease by renting videos of the Three Stooges, Keystone Cops and other silly movies which made him laugh constantly. Good luck.