Hi Kelly; I was 24 yrs old and only married 3 months when I had to have the surgery. I never had children. Sometime I day dream about what our children would have been and whom they would have looked like, etc. However, the choice I was, and you are faced with is wether you would rather have 1 child that you would most likely never see grow up or seek treatment. Your only choice is to survive. If you choose to try to have a child now, they can not treat your cancer the entire 9 months of pregnancy. You wouldn't get the chance to be a Mother to a child, or a wife or a grandmother and so on. You could adopt a child & hopefully live a long, happy, productive life. I feel for you. I know what your going through. I'm now 42 and very happy with my Husband & the life we have built together. He loved me before the cancer & even more after all these years. Thank god I listened to my doctor. I wanted to postpone surgery & have a baby. He told me I would die and possibly the baby would to. If the baby did live, I wouldn't be around for it's 1st birthday. I will never know if I could have even became pregnant. I'm just greatful for the last 18 years! I'm having a blast! Think positive, be strong, and don't let the old wives tales about surgical menapause scare you. I was the same person before & after surgery. It's all in the mind set. Good luck & many blessing.