Sharon
Try to give your mom SUPPORT, alot of it and be POSITIVE !!! Its hard but you need to be positive with her and have a positive out look on everything that she is going through and going to go through. I am 38yrs old, my sister just turned 40 years young and last month had a mastectomy on her right breast. Now she only has one breast. It is very scarey and upsetting up you need to think of only the positive things, like, now my sister wont worry every day about the cancer comming back in her breast.. It was really a bad breast. Very diseased and alot of lumps. If they only took the lumps out she would have so much of her breast cut off that it was better to have the breast removed. Her lumps were the size of gulf balls and she had 4 of them and then some in the lymph glads. She had chemo before the surgery to shrink the lumps but did not work. So now she has to have more chemo even after the mastectomy and than radiation treatment. She lost her hair and every thing...She has a 2 1/2 year old baby boy and she cant give up..!!!! The family, ours gave and keeps giveing her alot of positive support, but I know deep down inside my sister must be hurting bad. She is depressed now but on med. for it and she is doing good. I see her as much as I can but with me working and living about 1hour away and I have a family to take care of too its hard. My sisters husband has been great through every thing and he is there for her. That puts the rest of my family at ease a bit since my parents and brothers live in AZ and we are in South Jersey. I hope I have helped a little. Write me back and let me know how your mom is and YOU...YES its hard!!!! Pray even if your not a very religious person, it helps to ask G_d for strength to go through this. Be there for your MOM. Dont let her give up. I will say a prayer for you and your mom. Write, sjltk@aol.com, my name is Sharon