Teia
I come from the mental health sector but that experience still applies since PMS seems to cross the line between a physical and a mental health problem. The trouble with having the latter is that it intrudes more in ordinary ways of relating than physical problems do. To cope, a partner has to be very empathetic to the experience that is behind how one acts out. Your boyfriend does not seem to be prepared at all to be open to your experience so that his upset with your behavior can be tempered. as much as it may hurt, you may be better off without someone so inflexible. if it wasn't PMS, it would be something else. His expectations are rigid. As the wife of a manic depressive, I've always maintained that we've succeeded because I'm unconventional. Look for someone who sees you throughout the changes you go through. You can do what you need to stay in self-control, but always remember, your boyfriend's problem is more his that yours.