An herbal medicine used safely for yrs in Germany is Black Cohosh in a form called Remifemin. (ask your pharmacist to order it) It's very helpful. I also have Fibromyalgia and Myofascial Pain Syndrome, and have found that the ZONE diet (with low Carbohydrates) has been enormously helpful. I also flush with caffeine or alcohol. My doctor recommended the ZONE diet that was originally designed for diabetics and heart patients. He thought that my flushing was from a faulty insulin regulating system. Try it for a week with the Remifemin, and add soy to your diet a few times/wk and you'll see a big difference.