she has to help herself, she is very unhappy about something or cannot accept something. this disease is not easy to overcome, but one has to do it themselves or outer influences have to make life so difficult and the person sees no way to be accepted other than return to "normal" otherwise existence becomes more miserable and so there is no point in being anorexic. I was anorexic from 16-18. i am now 49 and have been "cured" after a post-anorexia state of being fat to get back at those who did not accept me while anorexic. both periods were miserable. i am cured except i have a fear of being fat and could not ever accept this state again. otherwise i consider myself normal weight and cured.